To whom it may concern (me?)

Came across an interesting dialogue between Richard and Liz Gilbert (aka Groceries) in Eat Pray Love.

Initially, I just wanted to copy a few sentences and paste them on my Facebook wall. But doing so makes it so incomplete and inadequate and therefore I have decided to excerpt a few paragraphs here.

Enjoy reading - especially to whom it may concern!

"People think a soul mate is a perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that's holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave. And thank God for it. Your problem is, you just can’t let this one go. It’s over, Groceries. David’s purpose was to shake you up, drive you out of that marriage that you needed to leave, tear apart your ego little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light could get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you had to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master and beat it. That was his job, and he did great, but now it’s over. Problem is, you can’t accept that this relationship had a short shelf life. You’re like a dog at the dump, baby – you’re just licking at an empty tin can, trying to get more nutrition out of it. And if you’re not careful, that can is gonna get stuck on your snout forever and make your life miserable. So drop it.”

“But I love him.”

“So love him.”

“But I miss him.”

“So miss him. Send him some love and light every time you think about him, and then drop it. You’re just afraid to let go of the rest bits of David because then you’ll really be alone, and Liz Gilbert is scared to death of what will happen if she’s really alone. But here’s what you gotta understand, Groceries. If you clear out all that space in your mind that you’re using right now to obsess about this guy, you’ll have a vacuum there, an open spot – a door-way. And guess what the universe will do with that doorway? It will rush in – God will rush in – and fill you will more love than you ever dreamed. So stop using David to block that door. Let it go.”
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Eat Pray Love - Memoir of Elizabeth Gilbert.